How to help those with dementia this Christmas

How to help those with dementia this Christmas

Published at 10:13am 20th December 2018. (Updated at 10:19am 20th December 2018)

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While the festive season is exciting for most of us, it can be lonely and also stressful for those suffering with the condition, their family and carers.

There are 850,000 people living in the UK with dementia meaning tens of thousands of families will be preparing for Christmas with someone with it.

The Alzheimer's Society have released some advice and ideas to unite against the condition this year.

They've asked families living with dementia for their top tips.


  • People with dementia can become unsettled in unfamiliar environments so keep things simple. Plan the day ahead, stick to familiar routines and be aware of the triggers that may cause confusion or agitation. 
  • Having lots of people in your home at once can become overwhelming to someone living with dementia. Excited guests, loud music and multiple conversations can be confusing, and may cause anxiety. Try creating a 'quiet room' in your home where someone with dementia can retreat if they are finding things a bit much. 
  • Above all at Christmas, think about what the person with dementia is feeling. Be prepared to adapt and be flexible, even if that means some of your usual 'rituals' get tweaked.
Christmas Dinner Table
Having lots of people around the table can be difficult for those with the condition


  • Everyone needs to feels valued and this doesn't change when someone has dementia. Think about how someone with dementia can continue to contribute at Christmas time and find a way to help them do this.
  • Hanging a bauble on the tree, writing Christmas cards together, setting the table or helping to prepare food are all small actions that can help a person with dementia be included and give them a sense of independence.
  • Arts and crafts like making paper chains together with children in the family are both fun and easy, and may encourage someone with dementia to recall activities from their own childhood.
A Christmas message from a Dementia Peer Support Group


  • Decorations are a big part of Christmas, but can also be overwhelming for some people with dementia if introduced all at once. It can be confusing and distressing if furniture is moved around so that things are not where a person expects them.
  • Rather than change things all at once, put up decorations gradually.
Christmas Baubles
Put your baubles up gradually to prevent any distress


  • With a bit of planning, Christmas shopping doesn't have to be too stressful. Many families recommended creating a shortlist of gifts with pictures from online shops and asking someone with dementia to choose what they want to purchase their loved ones from this.
  • Other ideas included shopping in the morning at garden centres. They usually have festive decorations but are quieter than other shops and often have cafes to relax in.
Salisbury BID Girls Shopping
Plan your shopping so it doesn't become too stressful


  • Music is incredibly beneficial to people living with dementia, and Christmas carols are no exception. For people living with dementia, singing can trigger some wonderful memories, help them communicate, improve their mood and leave them feeling good.
  • Music can reach parts of the brain in ways that other forms of communication cannot and it's a great way for people with dementia to share their emotions.
  • When attending carol services, why not call to see if you can reserve some seats so you don't have to get there early and wait in the cold. You can even ask if the lyrics or hymn sheets could be printed in a large font. After all, singing carols is a great way of bringing the family together and get into the Christmas spirit.
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