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VALENTINES DAY: Wiltshire Police ask 'is your relationship healthy?'

VALENTINES DAY: Wiltshire Police ask 'is your relationship healthy?'

Published at 11:40am 14th February 2020. (Updated at 12:05pm 14th February 2020)

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The force is reminding people who might need it that help is at hand.

Valentine's Day is often the time of year where we're showing others how much we love them, but it can also be when a spotlight is shone on how solid our relationships are.

Wiltshire Police is asking us to be aware of the signs of an 'unhealthy relationship'.

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Officers suggest what sorts of things can indicate there might be a problem: 

  • Does your partner makes you feel bad about yourself?
  • Do they ridicule you and call you names?
  • Are they telling you how to dress, think and feel?
  • Do they try to take control over who you talk to, checking your texts, emails and social media?
  • Does it always have to be their way, with no room for compromise?
  • Do they threaten you?
  • Have they hit or physically hurt you in any way?

Detective Superintendent Ben Mant from Wiltshire Police's Public Protection Department said:  

"A relationship should be equal and respectful.  Nobody has the right to ask you to do something that you don't want to. 

"Often a celebratory time like Valentine's Day, birthdays or Christmas can focus our minds on what our relationships are like and we, at times, all question what we have.  But if any of the above points about unhealthy relationships strike a chord, please be mindful that help is at hand.  You don't have to suffer in silence." 

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Detective Inspector Chris Feerick said it's also important that this Valentine's Day teenagers and young adults should be wary of things that make them feel vulnerable too:

"Sexting is an example of how youngsters can be manipulated by others and felt pressurised to do things they don't want to do.   Having indecent images of a child's body shared across social media and the internet is illegal but also extremely unpleasant for the individual involved.  

"My message is if this happens to you or you feel awkward in anyway when you are in a relationship of any sort - please seek help." 

If online dating is your thing, you're also encouraged to be cautious before revealing too many personal details: 


Wiltshire Police is signed up to Clare's Law - or the Domestic Abuse Disclosure Scheme - which allows anyone to ask officers if their partners have an abusive past.

That can also be used by people who have concerns about the safety of a friend or relative.

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You can report any issues to police directly on 101, or by calling 999 if it's an emergency.

Concerns can be raised anonymously by getting in touch with Crimestoppers on 0800 555 111.

Advice is also available from charities including Relate, Victim Support, Fearless and Childline.

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